Is it just me or to people tend to pop up right at that very moment that you need them to?
I have been feeling rather doom and gloom lately about the state or some friendships. And just as I was thinking about how a current friendship really has me hurting, an old friend from the past randomly contacted me and made me laugh. Thus prompting me to write this here post.
So does everyone have a best friend? Or is that just one of those hallmark things in life? Does it really exist?
I must say I have been asking these questions for as long as I can remember. And I am no closer now to the answers than I had been ten to fifteen years ago.
It has always been quite a difficult task for me to have a best friend.
My first recollections of such a thing are of a girl I met in day camp. We were best friends for a few good years until other friends crept into the picture. We tried a 3-4 way best friend fiasco, which turned out to be just that. I just remember always feeling like someone was left out. Or this one wasn’t talking to that one, or what have you.
Then one at a time two of the girls moved away, thus ending those friendships. At least for a time.
Then came high school. All I can say about any of those “Best Friendships” is that boys, or clicks somehow always ended them.
After high school I became pretty close friends with my sister-in-law-to-be. To this day I would say she was my best friend for a time at least. But again, that relationship was pretty much contingent on her relationship with my brother. So needless to say when they divorced our friendship went down the drain.
I would be remiss if I did not mention that for the last five plus years my wife has been my best friend. Yes we do everything together, and we laugh and play and all of that, but it is not the same.
And now, as a grown adult I find myself missing that companionship, that someone that you know just gets you.
So, I will close with one of my very favorite quotes;
“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”